Wondering why? Yes I'm committed trying to at least write something once a month.
Luckily I have something to share to all of you :)
It's all about sharing, probably sharing should be one of the most beautiful word in the world, as so many people use it for a good cause like share the love, share what you have with less fortunate people as donation, and many other nice thing.
Without any anticipation, as a parent I also started to introduce this concept to my 2,5 years daughter a while ago, but something amazing surprisingly came up :D left Arie and I with speechless and freeze moment for a minute.
2 days ago, while drying my hair, I overheard a conversation between Nicole (N) and Arie (A):
A: No Nicole, this is mama's eye-glasses, it's not a toy, okay? Give it to daddy.
N: Nicole borrow pleaseeee (good manner #1)
A: No Nicole, let's play with your toy instead
N: No daddy, i want this
A: This is mama's stuff and it's not for you to play with
...... silent....
N: No daddy! stop! (Arie was trying to grab the thing from Nicole's hand) SHARING daddy! SHARING! wait for daddy's turn! Now Nicole's turn! SHARE, okay! (good manner #2)
***speechless daddy*** then he laughed, realizing how clever his daughter is.
Adult associate sharing as a positive word or a positive attitude, let's see what can we find on google while searching for "sharing definition for kids", my finding resuts is not much different from the adult concept, here's the definition according to kids.net.au
The next question is, what should we do to encounter this kind of situation?
Highlight:
1. she does nothing wrong
2. she shows good manner
3. she's only 2.5 y.o.
... oh well it's not an easy job being a parent...
The fact that she is a clever girl makes it even more tempting to force our conception of sharing, but remembering that she's just 2.5 yo, there are times we need to 'give in' to win.
ReplyDeleteIn my case (when I have lots of patience :P), I emphasized on taking turns, I let my son hold my glasses for a while (while making sure he didn't do anything funny with it), and then told him that it's my turn to hold it, when I did get a hold on it, I would distract him with something else AND quickly (as if by magic)keep my glasses in a safe place. When he doesn't see it, he doesn't want it :)
When I didn't have much of patience, what I did was something like what Arie did, grabbed it and sternly said that it was not his toy, and the result would of course be a screaming 2.3 yo wanting his 'toy' back :D
Well, being a parent is surely making me think of lots of things that I thought was not a big deal :) but since they are big and new issue for my kid, so I'd better think a lot and fast :D